April 29, 2020

Tick Tock: A Writer's Guide to a Writer's Timeline

When it comes down to it, I think what I really want to be known as is prolific. I am wildly jealous of the authors who can line shelves with title after title. I revere a few of them and every day as I walk through my living room, I see their names lined up on my bookshelf and I wonder if someday somewhere there will be a shelf lined with my name too.

But the truth is, being prolific doesn't necessarily mean you're producing great work. There are 'authors' who are pushing out something new monthly and I refuse to believe there is much substance to such a practice. I want a story that is deep and nuanced and pushes me to think in new ways. I want an author who lets the characters drive the story, who understands the subtitles of humanity, who lets their passion leak off the page, who understands when a story is finished and doesn't let it go until then. I want an author who is the kind of author I'm trying to be.

So, in truth, maybe I want to be known as the author that 'writes well' as opposed to the author that 'writes so much.' I don't just want to tell stories, I want to tell stories that matter.

I knew I wanted to be an author from a young age. I didn't know what that would involve. I naively thought that since I liked to write stories, it would be just as easy to write books. Ernest Hemingway said it best when he said: There's nothing to writing, all you do it sit down at your typewriter and bleed.

Easy peasy, right?!

Comparison is my greatest hindrance.

Competition is my great motivator.

Compassion is the key to my timeline.


Dear Anne Rice/Ted Dekker/James Rollins/etc.
You are you. I am me. What you are capable of is not what I am capable of. What I am capable of is not what you are capable of. My life situation is different than your life situation and we're all just doing our best with what we've got. Amen.


There is so much value in striking up relationships with other authors who are in a similar situation as your own. For me that means authors who are independently publishing (or running their own publishing company), working 'regular' jobs outside their home, and raising families all while trying to put their writing out into the world. Whether these people realize it or not, I am in healthy competition with them. Watching them overcome real-life struggles to keep their writing a priority is massive motivation and I push myself to keep up. It's not about winning, it's about keeping pace in order to support one another.


Rejecting comparison and embracing friendly competition allows me to set realistic goals with a compassionate eye towards attainability. Being an independent author means I am my own boss: I set the rules, I set the goals, and I'm the only one allowed to break those. Leaving room for deviations leaves room to breathe. Sure, I deal with guilt when I feel like I-just-can't-write-another-word today/this week/this month, but I've also allowed myself the space to take that break. I never want writing to be a chore or a job. When that happens, I've sold out. I want to love it. Forever.

My second novel is currently in the beta reading stage. You probably think that means I have written a complete manuscript since the release of The Church in the Wildwood back in 2017, but you would be wrong. I wrote the first words of Black Bird in November of 2011, almost three years to the day before I wrote the first words of Wildwood. Black Bird has fought me every single step of the way.

There are many reasons a book refuses to be written and almost every reason has to do with the author, not the book. 

I was afraid. There were scenes the characters dictated that terrified me. There was one particular scene—the main conflict climax of the whole story—that I knew backwards and forwards in my mind but I couldn't make myself write it. I spent months trying to sit down and pull it from my head, but I just couldn't. My fingers were frozen. This wasn't writer's block. I knew exactly what I needed to type. This was resistance to what our dear friend Hemingway tells us: I didn't want to bleed all over the page.

And so, instead of writing what had to be written, I started writing a new book, a YA post-apocalyptic saga (because seriously, people keep buying those and I might as well have a title for pop culture as well as the literary fiction junkies, right?).

Timelines are messy and painful and defeatist, but looking back on it, I'm not sure I would change a thing. The old adage tells us that things happen for a reason, and I know that to be true. Had I not allowed Black Bird to simmer gently on the back burner, I would never have discovered the town of Fallmoore or the cult commune of Harridan Bluffs. I would have never learned that Bird's story happened in the same town. The richness of the story cross-over would have been lost—and though each is a story that can stand on its own, it holds so much more weight when paired up.

Just as my narratives are not revealed to the reader in chronological order, so too is my approach to writing.

November 2011 - began Black Bird
November 2014 - began The Church in the Wildwood
November 2015 - revisited Black Bird for the NaNoWriMo challenge
November 2016 - began The Path That Takes Us Home (working title - YA Post-Apocalyptic)
July 2017 - released The Church in the Wildwood
September 2017 - began The Ghost of Iris Carver (novella)
May 2018 - released The Ghost of Iris Carver
May 2019 - refocused on Black Bird
January 2020 - re-refocused on Black Bird

November 2020 - RELEASE BLACK BIRD

It will be nine years from first words to release. Nine years. That's 22% of my life; 75% of my daughter's life; 40% of my marriage...

And that's okay.

Everything in its own time.

To rush a thing is to cheat it. To let a thing unfold on its own is poetry.

So the moral of the story is, just go with it. Let your story guide you. Take the breaks you need. Give yourself permission to step away. Days, months, years. When the time is right, you will write.
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April 19, 2020

My Feelings are a Rainbow [or Jennifer Lopez, Please Sing Me a Lullaby]

Welcome to the world. It's not the world you remember and it's probably not the world you want, but it's all we've got so we'd better hang on.

Every day feels like Thursday. We're bouncing between sunshine and snow. Gas is cheap but we have nowhere to go. Numbers matter, but not like they used to. We're counting down to something, but no one is sure what that is...

It has been 40 days since the last baseball practice; 39 days since we learned Tom Hanks was sick; 38 days since it was announced that schools wouldn't open after March Break; 37 days since the June conference I was booked to speak at was cancelled; 36 days since I held my breath, waiting to learn if my sister was able to get back into Canada from Seattle; 35 days since my first Zoom staff meeting; 34 days since Ontario declared a state of emergency and started enforcing social distancing; 33 days since my husband has been able to play pool; 27 days since I sobbed in the car; 21 days since parks and trails were closed; 19 days since we pulled our van out of winter storage and then realized we couldn't take her anywhere because everything is shut down; 17 days since God sent us a rainbow to remind us He was still there...somewhere; 14 days since we started online home-school; 13 days since our septic system flooded our basement with sewage water; 10 days since my mother knocked on our patio door and then stood back six feet while I collected the bag of Easter treats she'd set down on the deck; 9 days since we got to watch a recovered Tom Hanks host a weird SNL episode from his kitchen; 4 days since my son's summer trip to Europe was cancelled; 3 days since we dug up our backyard to find the root of the problem in our sewer pipe (pun intended!); 1 day since Jennifer Lopez made me believe in humanity's capacity to survive.

There have been memes circulating about how introverts were made for times such as these—how we've been training for this our whole life. And it's true. To a point. I've been watching my fellow introverts posting about their free time and productivity and the wealth of creativity they've been able to tap into. And I'm just sitting here in my home office with my CORONA typewriters 😳, trying to catch my breath, and what even is free time?

I am lucky to be wildly busy with work. We are lucky that my husband signed a full-time contract with the Catholic school board just before the world shut down. You are lucky that my son works at the grocery store and is keeping the shelves stocked so your pantry doesn't go bare.

But I'm also jealous of the free time I'm seeing people brag (or complain) about. I want a chance to be bored. I want to write and read. I want to sit in the sunshine. I want Michelle Obama to take the reins for our floundering neighbours and I want to appreciate Justin Trudeau's quirky little eye squint he does when he answers a question. I want to watch all the Toy Story movies because suddenly it means more that Woody has a voice; and I want to listen to The Gambler because Kenny Rogers will never sing it again.

The new normal is anything but.  

There have been beautiful moments in all of this. I have laughed so hard that tears streamed down my face—I adore my family and can't believe how lucky we are to be stuck together—but I've also experienced real moments of grief and anger. I'm worried about rebuilding. I have deadlines I don't feel motivated to reach. I put on jeans once a week to make sure this body is still my body. Yesterday, I drove my son to work in my pajamas and flip flops.

Last night I watched 'One World: Together at Home' and Jennifer Lopez's version of People knocked on the door of my heart. Because that's the whole truth. People need people. We're in this together. And we will see the other side.

I have no answers and that's frustrating. But I do have hope and faith and love and ideas. I've been surviving for forty days and forty nights.

I think it's time to start living.

Stay safe out there friends.

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If you'd like to read something a little less 'poor me' and a little more inspiring, pop over to this post I made on the Blank Spaces website: ART IS THE ANTIDOTE: FINDING PEACE THROUGH CREATIVITY.

If you're interested in learning about where I'm at with my latest novel, you can track with updates on the Black Bird website: WWW.BLACKBIRD.ALANNARUSNAK.COM
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June 20, 2019

Saying Yes to What Scares Me

My creative journey only began its forward trajectory when I started saying yes to things that scared me. 

It's easy and safe to live life in a bubble, and some people can be happy there. Who can blame them, really? Have you ever watched the way the light dances off a bubble? It's like an oily prism of gorgeousness. I could get behind someone settling into that for the long haul. But me? I was made for more than that. Not because I'm better or more ambitious, but because I'm personally fulfilled by the chase.

If you're in the race, you have to be ready for the baton.

Fact: I hate running with the passion of a thousand flaming spears aimed at the likeness of a certain politician I have a lot of not-so-shiny things to say about. (But I won't mar this sacred space of mine by giving them any air time.) I hate running the way a rabid dog hates water or like how my sister feels about sugar in her tea. But for the sake of the imagery, come along with me, won't you...?

(To be perfectly clear, the included photo of me is not one snapped as I'm 'out for a run'. I never have, nor do I ever anticipate, 'going for a run'. Instead I've started this new thing where I go for a morning walk, tackling the Hell Hill along the road by my house as a way to combat my slothy writer lifestyle. Each morning, I snap a picture of myself for a photo journal I like to call: Kill That Hill, Girl. You're a Warrior at 3km/hour! or How the Smell of That Raccoon Roadkill has Changed Since May 7th. Watch for it on Kindle in 2020. 😉)

So, I'm in the race. I'm wearing a pair of those cute little running shorts along with a pair of those socks that go halfway up my calves because the 70s called and they're really disappointed I didn't get to grow up there (even though it's obviously where I've always belonged). I'm carving my own path because the track is boring and I know what it's like to fall on that gravel and have to pick pebbles from my legs. There are stones in my way and I skip over them by starting my blog. There are twigs and I swipe past them. Sure, I get a few scratches, but through the brambles I'm able to write my first novel. I hop, skip, and jump across a stream or two and my sneakers get wet but there's something musical about the way they make that squeaky-squish noise and that propels the launch of my publishing company. And the farther I go, the bigger the hurdles get, and it's scary every time but I keep running because I know the moment I stop for air I'll just want to become one of the bubble people and bask in the bliss of a colourful blur.

Last weekend I faced the most uncomfortable hurdle to date: I led a workshop on being creatively reckless at a writer's conference in Hamilton.

When this baton was first placed into my hands I passed it right back. Because nope! I wasn't about to stand up in front of a room of strangers and play-act my knowledge before them like I was some expert on the other side of the chasm. I said no. A big fat not-in-a-million-years no.

Because I was afraid.

     But then I said yes.

Because doing hard things is what helps us grow.

I have things to share and I believe part of my purpose here is to inspire others by sharing my own journey. I can be the 'if I can do it, anyone can do it' spokesperson. Anyone can be that person. Every journey has its lessons that are worthy of sharing. When I finally said yes it was because I decided it was okay to own my path and to share it. The passion of one can ignite passion in another.

My insights aren't because I'm smart. They're because I tried and tripped and dusted myself off and tried again. They're because I said yes.

This is not a picture of me giving my presentation. Don't be fooled! I completed forgot about asking someone to snap a 'to prove I did it' picture. This is a picture of the room I presented in, photo-shopped together with the 'I'm really nervous' selfie I took that morning as I was leaving my accommodations to make my way to the conference hall, combined with the title slide of my Recklessly Creative workshop - which I really did show on that screen in the picture - it just wasn't there when I took the picture of the room. Isn't technology awesome!?

One of my favourite things about this race I'm in is the community I've built up around myself because of it. By allowing people to follow my journey, I've invited them to speak into my life, and that's an enormous gift.

I lamented my nervousness across all my social media platforms, calling on my circle to send out their positive vibes at 10 a.m. on Saturday morning. I was inundated with emails, texts, Facebook messages, Instagram comments, and Twitter DMs wishing me luck and assuring me I could do it, and every single one of those messages meant the world to me! Knowing there's a community that believes in me is one of the greatest gifts this journey has ever given me and it propels me forward every day.

So I hiked up my socks and I faced my fear. When there were technical difficulties getting my Mac to connect to the University's Windows system, I powered through and started without my slides. When it took a crew of three (or was it four?) staff members to figure it out, fumbling around beside me while I directed the attendees to write down a list of all the things that take up their time in an exercise that led to the identification of passions, I was (mostly) able to ignore them. When they finally figured it out and everyone applauded their techy help, I was able to keep on going with my slides as my allies.

I started shaky, but I finished boldly. The point is I did it and I feel pretty darn good about that.

It's hard to measure the success of a workshop like I did. Much of it called for personal reflection and for the first half it was a struggle to get anyone to participate by answering the questions I put forth. But at the end, one woman stood to her feet and, with tears in her eyes and a voice heavy with emotion, she publicly declared her creative goal (which is what I'd challenged everyone to do). Hearing her embrace that and spill it out with such fire was so powerful and I feel privileged to have given her a platform where she felt safe to do that. The same woman sought me out afterwards to hug me - not a 'hey friend' kind of hug. This was a heart hug. It felt like the kind of hug you'd give someone who just lost a loved one, like you're trying to give all of yourself: your condolences, your gratitude, your love. The kind of hug that lasts longer than social norms but feels like the whole world is nodding at you. Others shared their goals with me too, but that hug is what made the whole thing the right choice for me. It is what has fueled me up for the next big thing, whatever it may be.

I'm still sitting in that space of Writer's Conference Hangover (it's a real thing, trust me!), but I have ideas coming out of this experience to propel me onward. Would I do it again? Yes. Does it still scare me? Yes. Will I let that stop me? No. I feel good about how I look in these running shoes!

So, here's to the risk takers and the dreamers, the doers and the shakers, and the people like me who are trying to be just a little bit like them every single day.

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May 14, 2019

Why the 'Me Too' Movement is Making me a Bad Writer

This is an OLD post. My draft screen says I wrote it on October 18, 2018. It's been sitting there because I am afraid of it. I had intentions of formulating the message of this into a letter from the author when my book is finally ready for print (I touched on that in my last post) — and I think I'll still do that — but, in the interest of transparency, and because I think it's important to share my process because maybe someone else is actually struggling with the same thing, I'm going to post this post even if it makes me uncomfortable...


October 18, 2018

I've been lying awake at night working through plot struggles, excited that I'm actually thinking about writing, but not able to bring myself to actually do it. I am writing. Other things. Things for Blank Spaces and things for work. But my own stuff? The beat of my heart and the tale that rests just below my skin? Not a word. The truth is, I haven't given that a fair shake since my writing retreat last May. It hurts me to say that. And it leaves me feeling like a fraud.

A woman came into my day-job office last week; she interrupted an informal meeting to ask me how she could get my next book, to tell me how much she loved my first one.

I told her about The Ghost of Iris Carver. About how it was short. Just a little tease. I saw the disappointment on her face and I felt it in my gut. "Another novel is coming," I promised. "I'm just struggling right now to find the time to write it."



I have time. I have loads of time. Sure, I'm experiencing some health things that make me tired, but I do have time. Sure, I pour tons of energy into the magazine and into my publishing business and into my home and my family and my day job. But seriously—true confession time—most evenings lately I'm crawling into bed around 9:30, putting on some senseless Netflix show, and doing jigsaw puzzles on my iPad until 11:30. That's two hours of golden writing time that I'm just turning my back on. If I'd been using that time to work on my novel instead of distracting myself with bad television and pretty pictures, I would have a complete draft by now.

But I can't do it. I just can't.

I am frozen where I stand. Er...sitting in my pyjamas...under the covers...with a bowl of yogurt covered raisins and a cup of tea...


Because Alyssa Milano started something that SCARES ME TO DEATH!

#MeToo empowers women to speak up against the men who take advantage of them. I am all for the protection and empowerment of women; I celebrate the freedom this movement has brought to many, how it's fostered community and solidarity. I believe no one—woman or man—should be forced into a situation they're uncomfortable with, that no means no, and that for too long people have gotten away with loose morals and disrespecting behaviour. The thing is, it has expanded into a creature that has the whole world walking on eggshells. It started the conversation—and that's good and healthy and yes, let's build a future for our children where our daughters won't be afraid to walk down the street at night—but it also stopped the conversation.

I never want to minimize anyone's experience, but the rose-coloured glasses through which I observe the world tell me that there's always another side to any story. There is history and circumstance and mental health and misunderstanding. Rape is never okay. Assault is never okay. Bullying is never okay. Coercion is never okay. But the story of the offender is a powerful bridge, not to excusing the offense, but to understanding it.

Yet, I'm afraid to tell that story because #MeToo means the only voice that matters is that of the victim. #MeToo never calls for redemption. It never looks deeper than an accusation. It assumes the worst and it applies labels. It wants to return hurt for hurt.

And there-in lies the rub.

Black Bird, the next novel in The Fallmoore Chronicles, tells the story of an unwanted sexual encounter and how it created a ripple that crossed generations. As you should expect from me, especially if you've read The Church in the Wildwood, my goal with the story is to bring a message of redemption.

Redemption does not exist without sin and sin cannot exist without a perpetrator and a perpetrator can't tell their story if culture refuses to hear it. 

I am not looking to excuse any behaviour. Excuses aren't necessary for redemption, but an honest examination of the situation is. I believe the story I'm telling in Black Bird is important. I think it will challenge people to rethink the way they respond to certain situations. I'm going to trust that this is the story that's coming out of me because someone needs to read it in order to heal themselves.

So much focus is on justice and public shaming. Justice is important, but it's not the same as finding personal freedom.

If you are a victim of sexual violence, my heart breaks for you. I don't want to minimize your experience or your feelings. They are yours and they are valid and important, just as you are valid and important. No one deserves the kind of treatment you've experienced. It is my hope that you're being equipped with the proper tools to continue your life in a positive way, not to live as a victim, but as a victor. Everyone deserves the opportunity to move forward—not necessarily to forgive, but to leave behind.

The challenge I want to present is this: avoid the mob mentality. Put down your pitch fork and focus on your own well being. If the world was in a place where self-care was more celebrated than protesting, I would venture to say we'd all be a little bit healthier.

All this to say, I'm afraid of the response #MeToo advocates will have towards this book I'm trying to write. I think it will offend some people. I think it might stir up some angry conversation.

But maybe that's okay. Maybe in the conversation we find a common ground.

I recently saw a clip of Jonah Hill on the Ellen show, discussing his writing/directing debut, "mid90s". Ellen brought up the fact that the film is full of offensive language, language that today would be considered hate-speech, but in the 90s, it was just part of the culture. Jonah's response was brilliant. He said, "My job is to present a palette and not to judge it, that's for the audience to do."

What a powerful, freeing statement!

My job as a writer is not to tell you what to think, it is to present a very real situation and allow you to navigate it in your own way. Understanding that gives me permission to tell this story.

p.s. It's taken me two weeks to write this post because I'm afraid of the fallout. But I'm also coming to the point where I have to push past this block and write the story I know I have to write, culture be damned. I've learned from experience that the fear that stands in our way can often be overcome if we name it. So that's what I'm doing. Let's get this book written!


(present day) p.s.s. I am writing! I am working! I am getting things done. 177 days!

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May 7, 2019

Help Me, Joni Mitchell. You're My Only Hope.

We sat around a campfire pit, sun bright and winking, spring finally feeling real, laughing, catching up, sharing stories. A fire didn't burn in the centre where flat stones were stacked in a neat circle, but I've learned it's not about the fire, it's about the people who gather there.

"So you're writing lots?" she asked. "You have a new book coming?"

Embarrassment tinged my cheeks. One: because her pink hair made me feel ordinary. And Two: because I didn't want to tell the truth.

It's my personal Groundhog Day cycle. Meet up with an old friend-acquaintance-stranger and they ask me the same thing: when is the next book coming?

And I want to stick my head in the sand and cry.

I am the Queen of Excuses. I feel like winter beat me up. Like motivation took a back seat to cuddly blankets and late sleeps. Like I forgot who I was for a long, frosty moment.

Last week, I'd had enough. I pushed the mess aside on my desk and got back to work. I called myself out on Instagram and promised anyone there who cared that I was finally ready.

And then I found myself at this campfire that wasn't a campfire. "You have a new book coming?"

"What I really wanted was to release Black Bird on Joni Mitchell's birthday," I said. "But that's November. I don't think I can do it. But she'll have other birthdays, I guess..."

Later, as I reflected on it, a hot bloom of shame pulsed through me. I'd completely lost touch of who I am.

  • I am the idiot (visionary?) who launched the inaugural issue of a new literary magazine less than four months after putting out a call for nationwide submissions.
  • I am the maniac who wrote the entire first draft of my first novel in THIRTY DAYS!
  • I am the introverted scaredy-cat who visited book clubs and knocked on indie book store owners doors and stood on a stage and read my own work at a standing room only event.

I did all those things because they scared me, because I wanted to grow, because I had a dream, and because I believed in myself.

For a moment, I forgot...

In 183 days, Joni Mitchell will turn 76.

183 days.

So here's the scary question: WHY NOT?

Why couldn't I have my book done in time? I wrote the first one in 30 days, for Pete's sake!

The horrible truth is, I've been plugging away at this novel since 2011. That's far too long. I became jaded to the story. Bored. Then the whole Me Too movement swept the nation and I became scared. (You'll have to wait for the Author's Letter I'll include with the book when it's published to learn why.) Excuses. Excuses. Excuses.

183 days.

183 days to finish the draft. Edit. Send to beta-readers. Edit. Send to second round beta-readers. Edit. Layout. Proof. Print. Launch.

(I had to make a 3D image of it just to remind me that it could be real — that it will be real — and that it will be beautiful!)

Joni Mitchell is a pivotal cornerstone to the entire narrative of Black Bird. I won't tell you why, but I've fallen madly in love with her lyrics over the course of this project and nothing would be more fitting than to celebrate the birth of Black Bird with a birthday party for Joni.

All winter I wished I had a river to skate away on, but now I need to lean on something new.

And Joni said:

     If you can fill the journey of a minute
     With sixty seconds worth of wonder and delight
     Then the Earth is yours
     And Everything that's in it
     But more than that
     I know you'll be alright*

And I will.

See you in 183 days!

*If by Joni Mitchell from her 2007 album "Shine" an adaptation of Rudyard Kipling's poem If.

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April 13, 2019

How To Tell Your Children You've Lost Your Job

Tuesday. The sun rose and a pit settled in my belly, a low fist that made my cereal seem drier than usual, slowly twisting, just enough to make me feel off centre and a little disoriented. Like every step I took pulled a little to the left.

We'd been living in limbo for a few days, ever since the announcement about The Meeting. Rumours flew but we chose to rest our heads on the pillow of optimism. Maybe they're giving everyone raises, we joked. But it was only half-hearted. Sometimes, no matter how 'glass-half-full' you see the world, you know the truth before it's actually laid out before you.

I kissed him goodbye and wished him luck. I went to work and pretended things were okay. I watched the clock. I sent him a kissy-face emoji and he sent one back. The Meeting was at noon.

Tick tock.

When my phone finally rang, I left my shared office and sat on the couch in the empty foyer. "Hello?"

"They're shutting it down," he said.

And suddenly, the pit was gone. It's the unknowing that really rocks me.

When there's a sure thing, you can make a plan. If everything's up in the air, you're just a kite dipping around on the whimsy of the wind.

My husband has been a child and youth worker at a residential mental health facility for more than sixteen years. It has been his career, and though there have been many times he's complained about management or a frustrating staff member, it is his heart. He is good at what he does and has been the catalyst for change in the lives of countless kids rocked by a system that doesn't always help. He has invested his whole self into the program. He's had his heart broken by the stories of these kids, with tough love he's talked them off suicidal ledges, he's cleaned up their blood and tears. More than once he's expressed an abstract desire to bring certain kids home to live with us because the life waiting for them in their own home was devastating and hopeless. He has poured every bit of his empathy, his problem-solving skills, his belief in a better world, and his faith that every child is worth saving, into this place.

And now it's over.

Just like that. In a blink.

Like sixteen years doesn't matter.

But it does. It matters more than I have words for. How many kids left his care with a real chance at a successful life? For sixteen years, he made a difference. For sixteen years he allowed himself to grow and learn along with those kids and we've reaped the benefits of that learning in our own home. He is a master communicator - I am not (though I continue to learn from him) - and he utilizes those skills built up at work to keep our family communication lines open, to work through tough things with our kids and with each other. What a gift that is!

On Tuesday evening, he called us together in our basement family room to tell the kids. He spoke matter-of-factly, but positively. "Things are going to change. We're all used to my schedule, but that's going to look different. I might be doing some little weird jobs until I find something permanent. Maybe I'll be cutting people's grass. We don't know what it's going to look like, but the important thing for you all to know is that you don't have to worry. Our plans aren't changing."

And they're not. We just have to add some new plans to the old ones.

Old Plans: 
  • Baseball (our middle son is playing on TWO teams this year)
  • Skills Canada (our eldest has been selected to represent the school in the robotics competition)
  • Van (we're in the process of purchasing a decommissioned ambulance to convert into a mini home to take on the road this summer)
  • August Road Trip (New Brunswick, PEI, and Nova Scotia)

— yes, they all cost money, but they all matter, and we believe in our new plan

New Plan:
  • Continue with old plans.
  • Get a new job. 

The kids expressed some sadness, recognizing that this loss hurts their father, but they fully trust in his ability to start again. "You don't have to worry." That's the most important thing he told them as we sat there together. Worry is not their job. It's not ours either. Our job is to look ahead and seek out opportunity. It's not going to be easy — change is always hard, no matter how pliable you think you might be — but it is possible.

You. Don't. Have. To. Worry.

This is what it means to be alive. You roll with the punches and you turn hardship into opportunity. If we can keep our outlook bright, if we can take forward steps and turn those sixteen years into a golden selling point, there's nothing that can stand in our way.

I am hopeful. I am looking ahead. We are okay. 

You don't have to worry.
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